a nice thoughts to read

here are some thoughts i read from the book called "every saint has a apst, every sinner a future" by Terry Cole-Whittaker. hope you'll like 'em!

It's Okay to Judge
Hindsight helps us to recognize our past patterns and flase ego images, and change them if we don't want to continues to repeat our mistakes. when we think "if only i knew what i know now, i would do things differently," we need to realize that we have an ongoing life; therefore, we can apply our past lessons to our current situations and do things differently. besides our own experience, we also need sacred knowledge to help us in making our decisions. because of our tendency to judge people and situations through filter of our hopes, dreams, and fantasies, we tend to view people and situations as we want them to be rather than as they are. this makes us prone to repeating the same relationship and even business mistakes. people do not change their nature, except in rare cases!

discernment means judgment. we need to observe someone or a situation for a while before we get too close so that we can make the proper judgment as to whether or not this person or opportunity is a blessing or a curse. once you sign up for the relationship, it's like getting on an airplane and not being able to get off until the plane lands, so be sure you want to go on the ride. they say love is blind, but i say true love can only come when one's eyes are wide open.

discrimination is the key to doing things differently. if we want to achieve our heartfelt goals, we need to have the proper knowledge with which to make our moment-to-moment choices, because each choice of action will produce a result and cause a reaction, good or bad, to come back to us. gathering the proper knowledge of what works to get what want and what we should avoid is the right use of intelligence and our power of discrimination. once we understand the power of "Righteous Discrimination" we will choose to think, be, do, and have only that which is our highest good fortune and benefit and forget the rest. why do anything else?


Righteous Discrimination
Righteous Discrimination means to make the right decisions given our goals. during moments of decision, fate is written. every action brings a result, and if we want the right results and to determine what is right for us, we must do only those things that will automatically and naturally give us the outcome we desire. those who make mistakes may want to blame fate -- or their parents, teachers, or spouses -- for their misfortunes. to disown responsibility symptomizes pettiness of heart. instead of blaming fate or time, we should take full responsibility for our condition and work to solve our problems by gaining and applying knowledge.

do you want to have loving, honest, and mutually supportive relationship? of course everyone wants to be loved, as this is the goal of life, but love can never come from someone who is a cheater. unfortunately, many of us tend to choose our most intimate amd important partners in the heat of physical attraction or from ignorance, which means having our eyes closed to the way they really are. changing our conditioned nature is quite possible, though challenging. we can become any kind of person we desire if our desire to change is strong enough and we work at it. two people with the same spiritual and material goals who agree to do so can help each other eliminate self-defeating behavior and develop new habits of thinking, behaving, and relating. true love will blossom when both choose to help each other to achieve their common goals, but this must be a mutual choice for it to work.

when choosing both intimate and business partners, we want to opt for loving, straightforward reciprocators. the cheated believe they are going to change the cheaters and make them loving reciprocators, but this dream can be compared to someone who is going to change a hungry crocodile into a tiny pet turtle in a bowl. cheaters, the cheated, and reciprocators are the three kinds of people. obviously the cheaters and the cheated wind up together because they feed on each other's false ego images. one sees her or himself as a shartk and the other as a minnow.

our work is not to change others so that we get a fair deal, but to learn to apply the art and science of righteous discrimination by carefully selecting our mates, partners, and friends. so many od the spiritual people i've met had little if any ability to discriminate in their best interests, because they didn't want to judge others. we have to judge people, not critisize them, but use our eyes and ears to gain knowledge of what kind of people we are dealing with or if we even want to deal with them. wanting to see only the good in others can set a person up to be victimized, even harmed, by someone who sees you only thw way a shark sees a minnow. God gave us intelligence so that we can take care of ourselves by making the right decisions, especially when it comes to our associations.

SEMOGA BERMANFAAT :)